Presented by Whitney Hess.
What does it take to be integral?
- It can mean, “indispensable,” but it can also mean, “whole.”
- Emotional Intelligence (EQ): There’s more to succeeding at life than our intelligence.
- Social + Emotional Intelligence: self-awareness, social awareness, self-management, and relationship management. Each relates and impacts the other.
- The Institute for Social and Emotional Intelligence
- New Ventures West - coach training
- When we identify or point to “ourselves,” we naturally point to our hearts.
- Cognitive, emotional, and somatic kinds of intelligence (mind, heart, and body)
- Researchers Map Body Areas Linked to Specific Emotions
- Neuroplasticity: Our brains change and we have the power to change them. We can rewire our emotions and reactions to stimuli.
Most Common Skills in Need of Developing
- Designers and Developers generally have four areas to work on: Presence, Empathy, Adaptability, and Influence
Presence
Those struggling with presence:
- get distracted easily.
- treat people abrasively without realizing it.
- feel imbalance int heir work life, health, and family
- have overactive mental chatter.
- find themselves easily irritated
- feel unexplained aches and pains.
Developing your presence:
- Write “morning pages” when you first wake up. (mind)
- Observe your thoughts and recognize that your are not your thoughts. (heart)
- Pause and breathe. (body)
Empathy
The ability to feel another person’s feelings and experiences.
Those struggling with empathy:
- assume they know how the other person feels.
- have a hard time “reading” people.
- wait for their turn to talk, planning their response.
- believe everyone thinks like they do.
- are often surprised by what someone has said or done.
Developing your empathy:
- Assess your level of listening. (mind)
- Watch for cues. (heart)
- Read more literary fiction. (body)
Adaptability
Those struggling with adaptability:
- find it hard to juggle demands
- slow to see things from another perspective
- get frustrated by change, even when positive
- find changing priorities stressful
Adaptability is flexibility (attitude) and versatility (aptitude).
Developing your adaptability:
- Brainstorm alternatives (mind)
- Observe your reactions to change (heart)
- Throw away old work (body)
Influence
Those struggling with influence:
- deliver same argument or presentation regardless of audience.
- rely on their position of authority, or are resigned to not having any.
- take little notice of audience’s needs or interests.
- find it hard to communicate a common vision that involves others.
Dr. Robert Cialdini’s Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
Developing your influence:
- Consider your available strategies. (mind)
- Observe an influencer. (heart)
- Be a helper and accept “thank you.” (body)